Why does it often take some sort of tragedy or horrible turn of events to knock things into perspective for someone or for groups of people? Are we just wired that way, to just be oblivious to what goes on around us until we find illness or even death at our own front door?
I for one, feel guilty about taking some things for granted and not having enough perspective during lifes little struggles. I need to remember…no wait it is imperative that I remember that someone somewhere has 3-5-10x worse than I and that maybe I don’t have it so damn bad.
Failures of perspective in decision-making can be due to aspects of the social utility paradox, but more often result from simple mistakes caused by inadequate thought. Herman Kahn
“You are a beautiful, smart, independent, loving and caring girl. We all have to stand by the decisions we make, BUT you don’t have to stand for being criticized for any decisions you have made. You learn from your past and you answer to only yourself and your family.”—RBJ
It's been a couple years now and I still miss her.
My husband still shakes his head and tells me I don’t miss her, I miss the friendship we had. She was the only girl to ever break my heart. She’s jaded my view on women as a whole when it comes to making new friends. I want to say I know not all women are like her but no one ever really knows what another human being is capable of.
She was/is a crazy, life ruining, vindictive, volatile force that destroyed me. Why do I miss her still? Better yet why did I keep going back to the friendship even though she’d betrayed me? To learn a lesson? If it there was a lesson to be learned it was that some people don’t change no matter how old they are or how many years pass between the lines of communication are open again. My husband has a point though, no one other than he or my family should have that kind of hold on me.
Being a newlywed, hearing someone say “hello Mrs. Leon” I suppose will still take some getting used to. I found myself the other night filling out a form and using my maiden name hehehehe. I guess until it’s officially on the DL and social security card I can still keep signing things “Carli Mazzarella”. I know it’s just a last name but I view it as something I will be giving up. Kind of makes me sad. On the brighter side I won’t have a ten letter last name to spell out on paper work :)